tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post2396120463787788700..comments2024-02-12T05:07:33.941-06:00Comments on A Nice Place In The Sun: Spanking Where Do You Draw The Line?aniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-39495451337412453362011-02-21T17:31:56.566-06:002011-02-21T17:31:56.566-06:00I was spanked as a child, and I turned out really ...I was spanked as a child, and I turned out really well. They talk about all this psychological crap, but it is just a part of life. I think this was a great blog, you should think about attending a <a href="http://www.occwf.org" rel="nofollow">christian writers conference</a>. You could put on a really good workshop.Helmethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04222199794261280848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-59546827521058520192007-06-08T19:37:00.000-05:002007-06-08T19:37:00.000-05:00John, Wow! It sounds to me like you are a very goo...John, Wow! It sounds to me like you are a very good father. Parenting is the hardest job any of us will ever do. I used time out with my son however, I also spanked me a few times and regretted it.<BR/><BR/>It sounds to me like you have empathy for your children and that is a wonderful quality to have in a parent! They are lucky twins! <BR/><BR/>Annaniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-59897631460921181722007-06-08T10:00:00.000-05:002007-06-08T10:00:00.000-05:00When my wife was pregnant I told her I didn't beli...When my wife was pregnant I told her I didn't believe in spanking and would not do it to my kids. I had been slapped a few times as a child but not excessively and I have no scars from it. I just thought that talking to your kids and time out etcetera was the way to go. We have twins and I found myself losing my control and spanking them in the home. I always felt bad afterward and I think I will always regret it. Some people are just better and have more patience with kids. They are 5 now and I don't spank them anymore thank godAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-61524848257056284542007-06-04T02:26:00.000-05:002007-06-04T02:26:00.000-05:00Shy Ritz, I thank you so much for your comment. Th...Shy Ritz, I thank you so much for your comment. <BR/><BR/>This post was difficult to write, since you do not want to offend people who have made the choice to spank their children. <BR/><BR/>However, my question is where do you draw the line? Does spanking really make a difference in your child's behavior or does it make things worse? And if it doesn't work, does it cause shame, resentment, and emotional pain?<BR/><BR/>It seems in your case you already know the answer. I really respect your decision to not spank your children, and appreciate your courageous response.aniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-39056350751036349062007-06-04T01:49:00.000-05:002007-06-04T01:49:00.000-05:00I was not spanked regularly in fact i can remember...I was not spanked regularly in fact i can remember the times i did get spanked. I am twenty five now and I can still feel recentful about those situations I did get spanked. I don't agree with spanking kids, I came to decisions a long time ago that I would not spank my kids when I have them.Shy Ritzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00796865456484479116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-86914007341178059262007-06-03T17:33:00.000-05:002007-06-03T17:33:00.000-05:00Christy, I think you are one of the best writers w...Christy, I think you are one of the best writers we have blogging today, so your comment is one I will truly value for some time. <BR/><BR/>I was really frightened when writing this post, and some friends and my son thought it TOO thought provoking!<BR/><BR/>However, what I saw that day at the hospital upset me so much ,plus I didn't know what do when I got home. Report it? And say what? That I saw a mother disciplining her child? <BR/><BR/>Where do you draw the line? My hats off to you for surviving such an emotional ordeal. The power of the human spirit to overcome adversity has always amazed me! However, out of adversity comes beautiful things. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for validating this post! From me and all of the children who have endured and are enduring what you went through.<BR/><BR/>I bet you have a great group of kids!<BR/><BR/>Annaniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-46763562380725767842007-06-03T17:08:00.000-05:002007-06-03T17:08:00.000-05:00Wow, that was a fantastic post, very well written!...Wow, that was a fantastic post, very well written!<BR/><BR/>I was abused as a child so I have very strong opinions on not using spanking (pain) to teach children. <BR/><BR/>I've used time outs as discipline and I have four very well behaved kids. <BR/><BR/>I believe that if parents decide to use spanking to discipline their kids it should be well thought out, not a spur of the moment reflex. <BR/><BR/>I have permanent damage done to my jaw that causes chronic pain from years of being slapped. But what it did mentally was even worse. <BR/><BR/>This article was indeed thought provoking, I think it's great when issues like these are discussed openly.<BR/><BR/>Take Care! :)Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10560976761534351182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-64965048889166006982007-06-03T15:14:00.000-05:002007-06-03T15:14:00.000-05:00Thank you, Tracy for your comment. It sounds to me...Thank you, Tracy for your comment. It sounds to me like your parents acted responsibly in their choice to use spanking as a form of discipline. This post was so hard to write for fear of offending parents who do discipline their kids in a responsible manner. It is too bad there are not more parents in the world like yours. This article 's intent is to be thought provoking in this sensitive area of parenting. I disciplined my child in the same manner as your parents, but I'm not sure everyone knows where to draw the line.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you left a comment, and value your opinion.<BR/><BR/>Ann<BR/><BR/>A Nice Place In The Sunaniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-66512440724545342142007-06-03T14:25:00.000-05:002007-06-03T14:25:00.000-05:00My parents never disciplined us (my sister and me)...My parents never disciplined us (my sister and me) in public. We were always taken outside or to the bathroom or something. And the threat of that was bad enough (because we knew what was coming and the shame of other people knowing what was coming) to keep us pretty much in line. However, on those days when we didn't behave ourselves and crossed the line, my parents didn't hesitate to follow through with their promise.<BR/><BR/>In other words, I think this is something you have to use with caution, but it's not something one has to avoid completely. But that's just my opinion.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06466270831130480235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-74574816212831904092007-06-03T11:48:00.000-05:002007-06-03T11:48:00.000-05:00Wow! What a compliment! Coming from one of my favo...Wow! What a compliment! Coming from one of my favorite blogs! I did the exact same thing with my son, only in extreme situations. This post was so hard to write, because I did not want to come off like I thought people who spanked their kids were bad, but I wander where do you draw the line? I agree with you that what I saw was crossed the line, but would that parent have thought so?<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for leaving a comment , especially on this post. <BR/><BR/>I will add you to Technorati, and to my favorite links-<BR/><BR/>Annaniceplaceinthesun.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12356497322124481526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2912920652511807597.post-33379778795716780582007-06-03T04:58:00.000-05:002007-06-03T04:58:00.000-05:00Wow...slapping your kid in the head is not what I ...Wow...slapping your kid in the head is not what I consider discipline. I was spanked as a child. I have only spanked my son 3 times..in an extreme situation. I think most parents are afraid of the "reproductions" if the spank their kids.<BR/><BR/>I really like this blog alot and will be one I will check quite often. Please feel free to link to me and add me to your Technorati friends. I will defiantly do the same.DiamondsSaphirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00427489054725961317noreply@blogger.com