5/10/08

Motherhood Is An Art

“My mother is a poem
I'll never be able to write,
though everything I write
is a poem to my mother.”
--Sharon Doubiago



I am fond of this quote, from the perspective of a daughter and writer. For me, my mother’s opinions, values, such as, what she would say, are always on my mind. We cannot help but characterize ourselves by the expression on our mothers face when we meet face to face.


Our Mothers reflect our first mirror image, instructing us on our identity, before we're aware of our own individuality. I've asked people who have lost their mother when they were small, what they remember about her and they describe a feeling. I believe the feeling they remember is their mothers love; the one thing all of us remember the most about our mothers, or what we think of when we hear the word mother.

A mothers love is an emotion impossible to explain; a vast sea of understanding and devotion, unmatched by any affection we will ever know again. I believe that adults sometimes expect this kind of love from their partners and friends and it's a feeling we're unable to duplicate.


This disappointment causes it's fair share of heartache in relationships. Be it between life partners or friends, we want this unconditional love bestowed upon us again. We all need to be mindful on Mothers day, and everyday that the sentiment shared between mother and child, has the propensity to cause our mothers alarm. Every child governs the heart of a parent, regardless of years, because you're always your mothers child regardless of your age. Since children have their mothers heart in the palm of their hands, whatever happens to them happens to Mom.


Therefore we should be tender with our mother's hearts, and pray our children will be gentle with ours.
My mother watched her girlhood diminish when she became a mother before entering a period of knowing herself, her dreams, or her plans. Although motherhood is an art; and all artists know is the passion they feel for their gift, everything else fades away in comparison.

Caring for our needs and the needs of our children is a balancing act requiring grace, patience, character, and love- our most cherished gift from our maker- the gift we pass to life itself, our children, and each other- love, often reflected after birth in the face of a mother.


Today is the day to remember the person who loves or loved you most in the world, and wished for you all you've ever dreamed of having or doing. We have our mothers to thank for so much, especially the sacrifices they've endured.

I appreciate my mother for the courage she had to have had to watch my mistakes, for the fortitude to predict my misgivings, and the compassion to set me straight. I'm glad she pulled my hair out of my eyes and hummed me to sleep at night. In addition, her voice and words will always be recorded in my head, advising, comforting, and reminding me of what is in my best interest.

I am grateful for the books, the dreams of possibilities, the devotions, the time, the explanations, and most of all the love- the word that is impossible to explain. Happy Mothers Day Mom!

And to the rest of the Moms in the world, I hope you have a great day~

12 comments:

mauniejames3 said...

Ann: as usual this was such a lovely post...I'm so glad you have a terrific relationship with your Mom..sure you should show your children how to love and respect their Mom's..they are the one's who will be choosing your nursing home...

Ann said...

Mauniejames3, Thank you for complimenting my posts Maunie. I haven't any confidence in my writing lately.

And (laughing) you have a point about the nursing home...I'm glad I put that in there. :))

You write the best comments and I think I owe you about a hundred. :))

Thanks for being so supportive and kind, and funny~

Ann

Misty Dawn said...

This is a GREAT post, my friend. You described my grandma (she was my 'mother' in every sense of the word) wonderfully.

Happy Mother's Day to you, Ann. I hope you have an absolutely fantastic day - you truly deserve it.

FerdC ~ The Best Parts said...

Annie,
this was a beautiful tribute to your mom, and really to moms everywhere. Well done!
And a very Happy Mothers Day to you, too!

Ann said...

Misty Dawn, I have missed you~ You leave the kindest comments and this one really lifted my spirits this morning. I appreciate you~

Happy belated Mother's Day to you as well. I hope you had a nice day.

Plus, thanks for the comment you left yesterday on my Louisiana Stars post. I haven't had a chance to answer the comments on that post yet, but I read them, or at least I don't think I've answered them yet, well...if I didn't, I wanted you to know how happy it made me.

There are few things as valuable as a supportive friend. :) And you're one of those valuable pals.

Have a great day Misty.

Ann said...

ferdc, Thank you for the warm and sincere Mother's Day wish in addition to a great compliment.

I love it when someone writes "Well Done!" There's just something about those two words "Well Done" that puts a spring in your step; much like a child feels when they receive a gold star.

In any event the words "Well Done" are excellent and give me the excitement of knowing I connected with a reader on some level-

One of those moments I love for, or at least one of my favorites. :))

Have a great day ferdc

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

What a great tribute to all mothers. I so miss mine. She was a delightful woman that also watched me make so many, many mistakes. She loved me anyway. You did and outstanding post her my friend. Have a great day. Big hug and lotsa lovies. :)

Ann said...

Sandee, Bless your heart, you're my best friend in the world, and I would always respond to your comment. However, I've been dragging in that department lately,

I still thought I responded to your comment on some post, because I remember reading the one you left on the Louisiana's Stars post. But then I thought maybe I told you thank you for what you wrote on the Louisiana's Stars post on one of your post comments.

But, I went back and read my comments on your post and I see I didn't write anything about it. I even thought I mentioned something about not having answered any of the comments on Louisiana Stars yet.

This makes me feel dreadful because I never miss your comments but I must have missed this one.

On both posts you tell me what a good job I did and it really made my day. My confidence has been at its lowest, and you always make me feel better.

I'm so sorry, and I still have to answer Louisiana Stars comments, and I will. Thank you for calling this comment to my attention.

I remember when you wrote about your mother before, and in fact I thought about you at the last part of this post. You've written about your parents in answering a Tuesday's Question in the past.

I think the question was "What was your parents best and worst qualities."

And I'm sure she did have to watch some mistakes, we all do.

Thank you for telling me that this is an outstanding post. I promise you mean the world to me. And I truly feel like what I said to Misty Dawn,

"There are few things as valuable as a supportive friend. :) And you're one of my most valuable pals."

I hope you know how much of a treasure you are to me. You don't know it yet, but after my first big advance check (for my best seller) (and who knows they might be writing it now) you're definitely one of the dearest friends I would love to meet.

So, yes blogger had a bug, and the bug was me. :))


Now, I'm going to answer my comments on Louisiana Stars.

Giant hug and love ~


Ann

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

I'm just glad you got my comments. That is what I worried about. After posting a comment on your site it always tells me that it has to be approved by the blog owner. It didn't do that yesterday, so that's why I worried. I didn't want you to think I hadn't showed up. Love you too sweetie. Big hug. :)

Ann said...

Sandee, Oh I know why. Because I was out of town and didn't check it again until this morning. Whereas, I usually check my posts everyday. I'm so behind. And God bless you, I know I can count on you to show up. You're the greatest. Tuesday's Question should be out shortly.

Love back, always~
Ann

Speedcat Hollydale said...

Ann, this was so sweet, and so eloquent.
In your comment to Maunie you wrote: I haven't any confidence in my writing lately
That seems so shocking to me because you are one of my favorite writers. Your style is soothing, and peaceful. Picture reading on a deck with warm breezes cascading across your brow as the sun gently sets in the horizon ... that's the feeling I get when reading your material.

Big Hug for Ann!!! Never stop producing the wonderful work you do.

Eric

Ann said...

Speedy, What you just wrote was eloquent, my friend. Do you write?

Because, and I think I've said this before, if you don't, you should.

I really needed to read the compliment you wrote. You have perfect timing, and it was sensitive of you to think about writing something. Especially that last paragraph. Whew, what a magnificent passage- One I can read everyday.

Thanks my friend, you're the coolest~

Ann

The Storyteller

Alone in her world
of make believe
weaving her stories
of magic and light

She brings joy
to the eyes
of innocent minds
less jaded and free

For only they know
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holding the secrets
she guards so well

Life's hidden mysteries
belong to those
whose wisdom and truth
shine on in imagination


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